Realizing that your illness does not
define you. Realizing that you always have been and always will be
a person who thinks, feels and does things by choice. Recovery
begins when you take responsibility for and become accountable to
these attributes because this is who you are; you are not your
diagnosis. Expectation is also
vital to recovery. It is a hope that says I can let go of the past
with all its fears and failures and I will take hold of tomorrow
today, with an expectation that I will see my hope realized.
Courage allows you to see what
causes you to fear. Facing your fear allows you to conquer it. For
many of us who have been diagnosed with a mental illness, our fear
is our diagnosis. The challenge of facing it is sometimes daunting
but we courageously face it.
Open mindedness is a vital
ingredient to hope of sustained recovery. You are no longer being
controlled by a diagnostic title; neither are you controlled by
naysayers who delegate you to some stereotype. You are on the
hero’s journey of recovery and you have to be willing to see the
world in a different way. This takes the courage of an open mind
that says, "I am willing to look and I am willing to try."
V stands for virtue. The
dictionary defines virtue as moral excellence but we must be
honest with ourselves: we all fall short of living to our highest
standard. However, as long as we are willing to move forward
toward a better life and lifestyle, this is the highest moral
excellence anyone can have. It incorporates a humble honesty and
opinion of who we are along with the courage to reach towards
becoming all that we can be.
Enthusiasm comes to those who get
excited about the hope of mental health. It is seen in those who
define their own well being – in those who refuse to say, “The
doctor says ‘I am my diagnosis’ so it must be so. Therefore,
what’s the use of trying?” It is refusing to resign yourself to
any standard lower than being all that you can be as a person.
Responsibility says: “If I am to
remain in a healthy frame of mind, and I have to take medication,
then I will take medication as prescribed by my doctor. I will
take every step necessary to improve myself with enthusiasm,
courage and an expectation that my hope of recovery will be
realized.
You are the master of your destiny
as far as your recovery goes, and you are the owner of your own
heart. No one understands what it feels like to have the challenge
of your personal diagnosis except you. You have the right to be
who you are: a person who can think, feel and act.
These thoughts are not definitive truths. These are just my
thoughts, but they are thoughts that I have gained after my own
recovery from multiple diagnoses and medications, that at one
point were as high as 3000 mg per day. Today I am declared as
healthy, with no symptoms of a diagnosis, and no need of
medication. I have been so since June 17, 2001.
Daniel G. Cullen |